When
girls ask me whether or not I’m a feminist and I’d respond with, “No, I’m not,”
why do they explode with such violent reactions? “WHY THE HELL NOT?” “You’re a
girl and you’re not feminist?” “Wow, you must have a low sense of self.” “You
must think so lowly of women.”
No, that's not true. I don’t belittle women. Why is not being a feminist equal to belittling
women? I’m a healthy living young woman. Telling me that I belittle women is a
personal affront to my being.
I’m not a
feminist because I don’t understand what it means to be one. And frankly, I
don’t want to understand. The feminists I know say it means striving for
equality between men and women. They believe it. I don’t buy it. For one, why
do you call it feminism? Why not
equalism? That would make a lot more sense to me. Personally, calling feminism
as “equal rights for men and women” is misleading, isn’t it? It sounds like a
misnomer.
They would
concede and say that in essence, it means empowering women. Well, there you go.
Is that so hard? As for me, I don’t empower women. There it is again. When I say
this people usually react along the lines of my belittling women. Like, what
the fuck? Why does it have to be pure black or white? I think women are doing
some really good shit to change this world we’re living in right now. And I
admire that. Kudos to them. I think rape is definitely NOT okay, and never will
it be. Aaand...that’s about the extent of my stand.
Forcing
me to be a feminist because I’m a girl and ostracising me if I resist reminds
me of that seatmate in class who insists you become a Born-Again Christian
because you’d be much much closer to Jesus Christ, or that persistent Jehovah’s
Witness guy who keeps on knocking on your door.
The idea
of feminism to me is the same as being an environmentalist, or an advocate of
children or gay rights or, hell, even world peace. Either you have it in you or
you don’t. And I don’t. I don’t feel strongly for women and I should not be
criticised about it. Because I’m a girl.
Is this some sort of counter-feminism or something?
I have
girl friends. I hang out with girls all the time. Some of them are feminists,
including my dear dear Jahan. And you know what? I’m good with it. They feel
strongly about it and that’s something I truly respect. But I’m not like that
and I should be respected, too. Girls should be allowed to be non-feminists. Non-feminists. Not anti-feminists.
Seriously, guys. leave me alone.
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